The 2018 Love List

The 2018 Love List

I may or may not have mentioned it 928171 times, but 2018 has not been “my year”, but I thought it’d be good for me to take time to think about my achievements, because there’s been some babe moments in the darkness. With the whole world and their sister put all every single picture from the year on their Instagram stories I thought I’d break it down a bit more and celebrate things I’ve achieved, wonderful moments and other people who have influenced me this year.


Weddings galore – 3 wonderful weddings for 6 wonderful people in 3 different countries and my heart fills with love every time I think of them.

Experienced Salzburg – Wow, wow bloody wow, more about it here but if you are looking for a weekend getaway go, because you won’t regret it.

Booked flights to Australia – pretty sure a little bit of sick comes up each time I write that or say it out loud

Explored some wonderful places with wonderful people – London, Winterton, Framlingham, Southwold, York and the list goes on.


I have to admit, although I pretend I’m a “blogger” I don’t actually read that many blogs, but here are a few of my absolute favourites from the year.

I of course had to start with the babe at Vix Meldrew who’s brain child is ‘Exciting Emails’. Vix is on a mission to take over the world and the best bit is she wants to take all of us fellow bloggers with her. She is helpful, supportive and her content is funny and relatable and bloody helpful too. Yas, you go glen coco.

I discovered Cara through one of Vix’s newsletters and have been in love with her ever since. I love her content on Insty and things she says and posts just makes me feel like we are soul sistas. Her blog posts are just snortworthy hilarious, she writes about dating, mental health and baking too, what is there not to love.

When I first discovered Sophie Milner on Instagram I thought she was the ultimate fashion babe with a slamming body and the sassiest hair. I decided that maybe she might make me feel too shit about myself and I may have to unfollow, then I watched her stories and realised she was funny, took the piss out of herself and was so relateable. Sophie write “think pieces” on her blog which are so well written that you find yourself nodding along, saying yes, uh huh, so true and those posts speak to me on all the right levels.

Sophie Cliff is a babe, end of really. She sends the best motivational newsletter on a Sunday and over Christmas has been doing the self care advent calendar, which has been amazing. Her pictures are stunning and fun and her blog posts are ace too, can you tell I like her?


2018 has been the year of the self help books, you genuinely can’t walk two steps in the flat without falling over another “how to?” book half read, but they have helped me so much and I want to spread a bit of the love so you can start on your own happiness/positivity/self love/law of attraction journey.

The Positive Planner

When I met Finn at a Christmas Fayre in Bury St. Edmunds I just felt like I was speaking to my best friend. She explained their planners, their story, the CBT exercises included and showed me one of her completed planners. I completely fell in love and knew that I needed one to help me find me again. I bought both of their planners and the first week I used it I almost cried about how much a difference it made to my every day. With sections for positive intentions, to do lists and feelings it was wonderful to sit down for 10 minutes a day and write down my thoughts.

The Secret – been around for years but one of my dear friends ordered me to get it back out and read it, which I have done and will be doing again in Jan (and possibly taking it to Oz with me too). I also downloaded the audio book which I listen to every night to help me get to sleep. I focusses on positive mental attitude, the law of attraction and visualising things and making them a reality.

What a Time to Be Alone – The Slumflower. I sound pretty dramatic but this book helped me out of some of my darkest days, it is empowering and reinforces the point that you are already enough. I’ve bought it for friends and re-read it twice this year and have bookmarked pages to go back and read if I need a positivity burst.

365 Days of Happiness – Jacqueline Pirtle. A page a day with the intention of helping you mindfully create a happy and positive life and enjoy the small joys in every day and open up your eyes to the world around you. Once again there’s some dog earred pages where I’ve folded them down and kepp returning to them.

I also read “this is going to hurt” by Adam Kay and loved it so much I read it in about 36 hours. I laughed, I cried and just could’t put it down and although the ending was rather sad it puts into perspective what the NHS do for our country and how much responsibility they hold and what little they seem to get in return.


When I went on my social media detox earlier in the year I got into Podcasts. I thought they would be perfect to take me on a little holiday in my head so I didn’t have to deal with all the other shit swirling around. I can’t wait to listen to more in 2019, but here are my faves for the year:

Dear Joan & Jericha

Outrageously rude, sexual and hilarious agony aunts that try and assist people with their woes. The running theme is it always seems to be the woman’s fault. With lines that are so funny you’re rolling about the floor and points where you can hear both Joan and Jericha are trying to stiffle their own laughter it is such a feel good podcast to lift your spirits. The only problem is there are only 8 episodes!

Happy Place – Fearne Cotton

It feels like you’re sitting down with Fearne and here guest with a cuppa and just chatting. Every thing Fearney has done this year I have resonated with, I love her books, her uplifting Instagram posts and her Sunday radio show too, but this podcast is another level. I’ve been nodding along, but also crying on the train because they are all taking so openly and honestly, which is what we need more of in the world.

Love Stories – Dolly Alderton

As I said, I’m pretty late to the game on this podcast malarky so I can’t believe I’ve waited all this time to listen to Dolly Alderton. The first episode I listened to was with Marian Keyes and oh lordy it was such a belter and it make me fall in love with the both of them, because they just spoke to truth, AMEN to that.

I’ve also downloaded some others and will start listening to them in the new year, so watch this space for potentially a more in depth blog post about it.


This one is a bit cringey, but I feel I need to do it, because otherwise 2018 will go down in history as ‘the shit year’ and I want to try and remember the positives.

Took the plunge and handed in my notice at work and decided to buy a 1 way ticket to Australia – pretty big achievement I’d say

Bossed the blog – After 4 weeks of my blog being down and having months where I couldn’t think of anything to write apart from wah wah wah wah wah I absolutely nailed the last 2 months and feel motivated to smash it even more next year. I also smashed my target of 1,000 followers on Insty, next December I will hit 3,000.

Completed couch to 5k. In March I realised that I felt so unfit and needed to get moving. I re-downloaded the couch to 5k and got on it and completed it. I don’t think I’ll be competing in the olympics any time soon but still feel pretty proud of myself.

Learnt to listen to my body more and started trying to eat mindfully and as a result lost 2.5 stone. I know that it is not about the weight, but as someone who is still stepping on the scales and can’t quite get out of that habit, at the moment it is still important to me.

Here’s to 2019, my biggest adventure yet, what have been your favourites and achievements this year?



  1. Bryony
    January 1, 2019 / 5:00 pm

    omg that’s so cool that you’ve booked flights to Australia, I hope you have the best time x

  2. January 1, 2019 / 10:18 pm

    I’ve heard so many amazing things about this is going to hurt so definitely want to try that out. Its so cool that all three weddings were in different countries and I’m so jealous of your Australia plans!

    Soph – x

    • Ashleigh
      January 1, 2019 / 10:28 pm

      It’s a really great book and I would definitely recommend it. Ashleigh x

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