I wore something a bit nice for work yesterday and I’ll tell you for why, I was going out with some friends after work and wanted to look mildly presentable. So I whacked out one of my beaut dresses which is strictly for “out of work” only.
I felt rather sassy and something wonderful happened…. I got 3 compliments from 3 different people in my team (on separate occasions I hasten to add). The next thing isn’t so wonderful, I deflected them all, EVERY SINGLE BLOODY ONE! Here’s what I said:
Compliment 1 – Oh this, I’m only wearing it because nothing else fits.
Compliment 2 – This has been demoted to workwear from weekend wear, because guess what? Nothing else fits.
Compliment 3 – I’m only wearing this because I still haven’t washed anything from my holiday.
All of those are lies, most of my work outfits do fit, the beautiful dress is most definitely not demoted to work wear and true that I haven’t washed all that much from holiday, but I’m hardly going to be strutting around in a bloody tassel bikini and lacy shorts in the office am I?! And when I thought about it, the reason I said all of those things is because I couldn’t just take a flipping compliment, I had to get all awkward and weird and apologetic about it….. I’m pretty sure “thanks” would have been a better response.
It made me think about how we are so quick to deflect or object to somebody saying something nice and us Brits especially don’t seem to know how to take a compliment. People wouldn’t compliment you if they didn’t mean it. If they say your eyes are beautiful and sparkly, they mean it, if they say your dress is wonderful, they mean it, if they say you are a kind little soul, they bloody mean it. So you (and I) need to start listening to these compliments, because if we do that god knows what effect it will have on our confidence and body positivity!
Do me a favour…. next time someone compliments you, say thanks!
FYI – this is said dress!